The thing is people will accept of reject you because they connect with you. If they connect with something real, you have a real friendship. If they connect with a fake self, you have an insecure bond. You have to explain that who they loved is not the real you. Often people will not forgive you for being fake and when presented with your true self after being presented with the fake self, they don't trust it is your real self. So all the work I put into those friendships when I was "punk" is lost. Some people forgave me, some aren't sure, some never will, and others don't like either self. I wasn't trying to impress anyone or be a badass, I just took I internet quizzes too seriously, because I have a problem. I don't really believe I am an INFP or have an above average iq at this point, because I have stopped trusting quizzes. But it is important to be yourself. I know as well as you do this isn't an easy task. Understanding who you are in order to be yourself is a challenge. There are whole classes dedicated to teaching people how to be themselves. For one if you doing something to impress someone else and it isn't a job requirement, then you are being fake. Instead of punk rock, I looked into what music I enjoy. What arises when you want to be yourself is a fear of rejection, but either way you will face rejection. Might as well be yourself so then you won't have an imagine to maintain.
Why be yourself
The thing is people will accept of reject you because they connect with you. If they connect with something real, you have a real friendship. If they connect with a fake self, you have an insecure bond. You have to explain that who they loved is not the real you. Often people will not forgive you for being fake and when presented with your true self after being presented with the fake self, they don't trust it is your real self. So all the work I put into those friendships when I was "punk" is lost. Some people forgave me, some aren't sure, some never will, and others don't like either self. I wasn't trying to impress anyone or be a badass, I just took I internet quizzes too seriously, because I have a problem. I don't really believe I am an INFP or have an above average iq at this point, because I have stopped trusting quizzes. But it is important to be yourself. I know as well as you do this isn't an easy task. Understanding who you are in order to be yourself is a challenge. There are whole classes dedicated to teaching people how to be themselves. For one if you doing something to impress someone else and it isn't a job requirement, then you are being fake. Instead of punk rock, I looked into what music I enjoy. What arises when you want to be yourself is a fear of rejection, but either way you will face rejection. Might as well be yourself so then you won't have an imagine to maintain.
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